Grief is a natural response to the death of a loved one. In a time of bereavement, one slowly adjusts to loss and learns to accept the reality of death. But bereavement can be an intense emotional roller coaster ride of emotions, physical ailments, and withdrawal from social interaction. It is important for those “walking the mourner’s path” to know these painful reactions are a normal part of the healing process.

At times the bereavement journey becomes stressful: body, emotions, mind and spirit are deeply affected by the strain of loss. Comfort from family and friends is necessary during this vulnerable time. Often, bereavement rituals provide valuable solace and comfort.

Nonetheless, people still have difficulty resolving the pain of mourning. Life is stressful, demands in this age are many, and it can be difficult to resolve issues with death, dying and loss, particularly with regard to one’s parents, and with any type of conflicted or traumatic death.

In my work as a bereavement counselor, I see myself as accompanying others as they “walk through the valley of the shadow of death”. I see my task 1) to offer nurturing support, patiently helping people accept their grief as normal;   2) to help people to clarify the vicissitude of ever-changing emotions; and 3) to be a compassionate guide as people work on resolving the personal and family issues which emerge in the face of death.